Ep. 109: The Personal Development Trap: Why Fixing Yourself Is Keeping You Broken
In this thought-provoking solo episode, Caitlin explores the exhausting cycle of self-improvement that keeps many of us feeling perpetually broken. After a cyclone-delayed recording, she shares powerful insights about why our relentless pursuit of "fixing" ourselves might be the very thing keeping us stuck. If you've ever felt burnt out by endless healing practices or wondered why achieving your goals didn't deliver the feelings you expected, this episode offers the perspective shift you might need.
This episode is for you if:
- You feel caught in an endless cycle of healing, manifesting, and self-improvement
- You've achieved your goals but still don't feel the way you thought you would
- You're exhausted by the constant internal battle of "not enough, not enough, not enough"
What we'll cover:
- The predictable journey through personal development (and where most people get stuck)
- Why achieving your external goals often doesn't change your internal experience
- How to recognise when your healing practices have become another form of sophisticated escapism
Key Points and Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Cyclone Delays & Confessions
- Caitlin admits this episode is late thanks to Queensland's first cyclone in 50 years and shares how it affected the Shadow Alchemy immersion.
04:44:00 - The Personal Development Entry Point
- How we typically stumble into personal development when life feels hard, seeking something to "fix" what we believe is broken.
09:10:00 - The Honeymoon Phase
- The dopamine hit of early manifestations and achievements that convince us "this stuff works!" and hook us into wanting more.
13:35:00 - The Reality Check Moment
- The confronting realisation when you have everything you manifested, but still feel exactly the same inside.
20:00:00 - Diving Deeper: The Somatic Phase
- Moving from mindset work to body-based practices, still subtly using healing as a way to escape the messy human experience.
27:28:00 - The Wall of Defeat (And Why It's Actually Perfect)
- Why hitting rock bottom with your personal development efforts might be the breakthrough you've actually been needing.
36:04:00 - The Mountain Climbing Analogy
- Caitlin's insightful comparison of personal development to climbing mountains, and why we often miss the simpler path that was there all along.
45:05:00 - The Liberating Truth
- The perspective shift that changes everything: what if there was never anything broken to begin with?
50:00:00 - The Party Girl Revelation
- A profound breathwork insight about control versus aliveness, and the judgment we place on different parts of ourselves.
54:05:00 - A Fresh Approach to Shadow Work
- What if shadow work wasn't about fixing or changing parts of yourself, but about accepting all parts without conditions?
Resources Mentioned:
Shadow Alchemy Coaching Academy: @shadowalchemycoachingacademy
Shadow Alchemy Coaching on TikTok: @shadowalchemycoaching
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